Geopolitical events in the intervening years have, I feel, given new life to the oppressive and destructive idea that men are cold, hard, unforgiving, destructive and deadly. And it’s not just “psychos” and “sickos” who do these things, Katz argues.
The phrase “tough guise” implies that the tough guy act is just that: an act. We use such terms because we don’t want to face the fact that the man-as-violent-machine is built into our “normal” culture from the ground up, and it’s a miracle more men don’t snap.
INTRODUCTION We live in a world where society has defined masculine and famine characteristics and features that have influenced our culture.
Men are seen as: • Strong • Powerful • Aggressive • Fearless • Outspoken • Tough • Demanding Whereas females are known to be: • Soft • Warming • Caring • Weak • Fearful • Quiet • Powerless Being tough and aggressive does not make you man enough because in today’s world, we have men who are exactly the opposite of society’s definition of masculine.
Men see violent masculinity as the cultural norm crucially due to media.
There’s a growing connection in society between being a man and being violent (Jackson Katz, 2013).The media constantly shows videos and movies that depict strong and aggressive men as heroes and they forget that, encouraging male empowerment is another way of encouraging patriarchy. Some men also argues that, they are tough and aggressive by nature. Real men—or women in roles associated with stereotypical masculinity—screw people out of their life savings and collapse the economy.Real men sit in a helicopter and rain death on that Iraqi family who are running for their lives.In real life, toughness is not necessarily masculine, and masculinity is not necessarily tough, but if you ask American culture, it will tell you the two are the practically synonyms. The tough guise, Katz says, dictates that women must be physically objectified.Katz shows footage of the well-respected radio shock jock Howard Stern instructing women to strip and criticizing their bodies on the air. He cites the crying scene from in which the protagonist courageously gets out of a car that was destined for violent revenge.I also would have devoted some time to offering some alternative definitions of masculinity, or what it means to be a real man. It’s plain to see that the tough guise is not only destructive, but also entirely inadequate for lending a sense of self-actualization to a man.The real problem is that many men feel they have no identity as a man. “Learn how to cry” and “Don’t kill that guy” are a start, but they are hardly a convincing enough replacement for the dominant cultural stereotype. Your current frequencies of understanding outweigh that which has been given for you to understand.For those who don’t conform, they would be called wimp, pussy, queer, bitch, emotional, and fag.There were given a lot of pressure to become the role of a man; especially colored men.